How to say goodbye to toxic relationships
Sometimes in life, it is necessary to rid yourself of toxic people, be it in a platonic, romantic or professional relationship. Unfortunately, family can prove a little tougher to deal with.
If a relationship is no longer bringing you joy, then how are you truly benefiting from it? Holding onto toxic people and toxic relationships only prolongs your own pain, and at times, you truly need to get out of your comfort zone and put yourself first.
I have cared for many people during my childhood, adolescence and even adulthood. Entering adulthood, I have come to realise that sometimes you just cannot make things work when it comes to relationships, and if your friends are not supportive – are they really your friends?
Life can be difficult enough without having to worry about those who are meant to care for you dragging you down.
There are many different types of toxic relationship, someone can be mentally damaging towards you, emotionally and on the worst end of the scale, physically. At the end of the day, abuse is still abuse no matter what form it takes – and it is not acceptable.
The benefits of saying goodbye to toxic relationships
If you have someone in your life that undermines you, tries to compete with you, is unnecessarily jealous or envious of your successes, clouds you with their negativity (every day seems to bring with it a new tragedy), gossips incessantly about those around you (take this as a general rule, if they gossip to you, then they most likely gossip about you), are not supportive of your goals, act possessive or are incessantly needy of your and everyone else’s attention (all friends are there to offer mutual emotional support but relationships should not leave you feeling burdened or be one-sided), are inconsiderate, critical, prove to be a bad influence (we inevitably become influenced by our environment) or are at times are just downright manipulative, then get rid. Immediately.
Bonds can deteriorate, and once someone begins to grate at your patience and sanity, they are not worth hanging on to. With friends you should never feel wary, you should be able to be open-minded without feeling conflicted or irritated. If you find yourself dreading to see a friend, making excuses to avoid doing so and feeling drained if you do eventually meet, then it all becomes pretty self-explanatory.
All relationships are complex and require a bit of give and take at times, but if your relationships are starting to drain you and stop bringing you emotional reward and joy, then it is a drastic warning sign to let that person go. Do so without speaking badly of them, as negativity never breeds happiness. Friends should make you happier and help you to escape or solve your problems, not cause them.
Healthy relationships are the only relationships you need, surround yourself with those who value you and you will soon start to feel a lot better in yourself. Your relationships should bring out the best in you and they reflect upon your own character. So remember, “you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So, be brave enough to let go of those who are weighing you down.”
Have you ever experienced a toxic relationship? How did you let that person go?