How to say goodbye to toxic relationships
Sometimes in life, it’s necessary to rid yourself of toxic people, be it in a platonic, romantic or professional relationship. Unfortunately, family can prove a little tougher to deal with.
If a relationship is no longer bringing you joy, then how are you benefiting from it? Holding onto toxic people and relationships only prolongs your pain. At times, you truly need to get out of your comfort zone and put yourself first.
Entering adulthood, you realise that sometimes you just cannot relationship work. If your friends are not supportive of you – are they really your friends?
In essence, life can be difficult enough without having to worry about those who are meant to care for you mentally dragging you down.
To summarise, there are many different types of toxic relationship. Someone can be mentally damaging towards you, emotionally and on the worst end of the scale, physically. Abuse is still abuse no matter what form it takes – and it isn’t acceptable.
The benefits of saying goodbye to toxic relationships
Here are the warning signs of behaviours of toxic people. If any of these are present, then it’s time to get rid. A person who:
- Undermines you
- Tries to compete with you
- Is unnecessarily jealous or envious of your successes
- Clouds you with negativity (every day seems to bring with it a new tragedy)
- Gossips incessantly (if they gossip too often to you, they most likely gossip about you)
- Are not supportive of your goals
- Act possessive or incessantly needy of your attention (all friends are there to offer mutual emotional support but relationships should not leave you feeling burdened or be one-sided)
- Are inconsiderate and/or critical
- Prove to be a bad influence (we inevitably become influenced by our environment)
- Are at times just downright manipulative
When to say goodbye to a toxic relationship
Indeed bonds can deteriorate, and once someone begins to grate at your patience and sanity, they’re not worth hanging on to. With friends, you should never feel wary. In fact, you should be able to be open-minded without feeling conflicted or irritated.
Obviously, if you find yourself dreading to see a friend, making excuses to avoid doing so and feeling drained if you do eventually meet, then it all becomes pretty self-explanatory.
In short, relationships are complex and require a bit of give and take at times. However, if your relationships are starting to drain you and stop bringing you emotional reward and joy, then it is a drastic warning sign to let that person go. Equally, do so without speaking badly of them, negativity never breeds happiness.
Essentially, friends should make you happier and help you to escape or solve your problems, not cause them.
welcoming happy relationships
Healthy relationships are the only relationships you need. Surround yourself with those who value you and you will soon start to feel a lot better in yourself. All in all, your relationships should bring out the best in you and your own character.
Finally, be sure to remember, “you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So, be brave enough to let go of those who are weighing you down.”
Have you ever experienced a toxic relationship? How did you let that person go?